| One of my girl friends called me in tears a while ago. | | | | attractive" are not necessary. If your partner didn't |
| Another boyfriend had broken up with her and she | | | | like you, or love you, they wouldn't be with you now. |
| was clueless of the real reason | | | | If you have just met a guy, give him some space. |
| "He never returned my calls" she tearfully said. | | | | Otherwise, you will see the first signs of wanting out. |
| "How many times did you call him" I asked. I was | | | | You don't need to call one another every day. |
| suspicious already of the answer. | | | | Although, if both of you like contacts, that's fine. |
| "About four times! And he didn't bother calling me | | | | Become a good judge of character. What seems fine |
| back once!" | | | | to one person can be perceived as needy to another. |
| ....and she was still wondering why he hasn't called. | | | | A good way to stop being needy in a relationship is |
| I'm sure we all know someone like my friend. The | | | | to force yourself not to be. OK, it may be easier |
| tragic thing is she doesn't even know that she is | | | | than it sounds but remember earlier relationships. |
| showing neediness. It is a sure way to turn off men. | | | | Don't forget how your neediness scared your |
| She has a big fear of being left because it has | | | | previous partner away. Do you want that to occur |
| happened time and time again. Plus each time it | | | | again? Of course not. Stop asking for reassurance all |
| happens, it makes her needier. She is trapped in a | | | | the time. Stop phoning all the time. |
| vicious cycle and she doesn't know how to get out | | | | Have a life outside the relationship also. Practice your |
| of it. | | | | hobbies and hang out with your friends. If your life is |
| Being needy in a relationship isn't about needing to | | | | centered on your boyfriend, this will make you |
| talk to someone numerous times a day. It means | | | | needy. If the relationship fails, you'll feel you've lost |
| that you need constant reassurance that your | | | | everything. |
| boyfriend loves you or that you are attractive to | | | | Being needy in a liaison is a big error. You have to |
| him. Many people are conscious of their neediness but | | | | understand there is no reason to feel that way. Take |
| unsure on how to handle it. | | | | pleasure in spending time with your partner and |
| You could take things to the other extreme, like | | | | realize that he is with you because he wants to be. |
| playing hard to get, but try to strike a happy balance. | | | | Nobody is faultless and a relationship needs some |
| Desperation is a huge turn off, as is acting as if you | | | | work. There is always going to be someone smarter |
| are not interested. Many people get it wrong. | | | | than you or more attractive than you. Your guy is |
| The longer you are with a guy, trust should naturally | | | | with you because he loves you! |
| build up. You need to respect the other person's time | | | | Stop acting insecure. You will still have needy |
| and their life outside of being with you. | | | | thoughts. Push them aside and enjoy your life. |
| Don't ask for reassurance all the time! Questions such | | | | After a while, it will be your new behavior and your |
| as, "do you love me?" and "do you find me | | | | relationship will be better than ever. |