Do You Know the Definition of Man Flu?

No, neither do I! But I'm fortunate in that my otherThen your sister rings! 'What do you think we should
half and I are pretty healthy. I can't actuallydo about Mum, Mel?' You'd like to be a time-traveller
remember the last time either of us visited theto some ethereal Desert Island, and give essence of
doctor - except when we went to get our flu jabs.Death Cap to both your sister and Alexander Graham
We've reached that sort of age, you see.Bell. Life could be sweet without the phone.
Consequently, I don't know much about the. . . WHEN YOU'RE THE MEAT PASTE IN THE
symptoms of Man Flu, other than what myMIDDLE
daughters tell me in respect of sons-in-law. But whenYour daughter rings to ask if you're well-enough to
I had that jab, I found myself suffering with thelook after the twins next day because she's on a
female version. And boy, did I suffer! You know thecourse. 'Of course,' you lie. 'What time does it end?'
sort of thing? Sleep having eluded you overnight, youShe tells you to have an early night, to look after
wake up next morning feeling utterly ghastly: stuffedyourself, and you know, because she's a mother,
ears behaving as though they've been pumped full ofthat she understands the futility of such advice. Next
the insulating foam that lines the cavity walls of yourmorning, she brings you her inhaler, and you hang
house (unless you happen to have shares in Britishyour head over a rising mist of menthol which
gas); throat believing it's swallowed a golf ball, if not ascrapes the skin off the back of your throat more
tennis ball; head exploding; and nose like a blockedeffectively than nitro mores on varnish. The twins,
drain in need of a plumber and a plunger.fortunately, are subdued. Perhaps it's the sight of
BEST TREATMENT FOR FLU? DEPENDS IF IT'S THEgrandma's red shiny nose and scarecrow hair that
FEMALE VERSIONmake them look askance, as if she's a stranger to
I don't know the cure for Man Flu, but hey! you'rethem.
female. You gotta get out of bed. And doing theMEDICATION FOR FLU
washing is woman's work. (What is it about men andYour husband buys you some of those
a washing machine?) Whatever - it didn't get donedecongestants that make your tongue feel as if it's
over the weekend because you were trying tobeen hanging around the Sahara Desert for the last
reduce the ironing pile before adding to it again, and adecade, and points out, lovingly, that they're the
great heap now awaits you on the bathroom floor,non-drowsy sort. You don't tell him, but you long for
scattered, because the family, if they noticed it at all,the drowsy sort which will give you the excuse of
simply took it to be a novelty bath mat. As if that'sdropping off on the sofa after lunch. And then you
not enough, there's a living to be earned. And if youspend night two in a state of demented hyperactive
work from home, as I do - job-sharing with mysleeplessness - only to discover that the stimulants in
husband - there's no way you're going to get out ofthe non-drowsy formula are the cause.
sitting in front a computer for at least part of everyBy Wednesday your limbs are aching nearly as much
day. You groan.as your ear, throat, jaw, teeth, neck and head. Is
HOW TO MAKE A TOASTED SANDWICH . . .this the result of the flu you deny you have, or your
Your mother rings. 'You sound terrible', she says. Butfight with the duvet, the pillow and the mattress?
as she continues you realise that this is not so muchAfter a cocktail of meds, you feel sick to your
sympathy for you as self-pity because you're notstomach, and the idea of falling under a bus seems
going to be a blind bit of use to her. She doesn'tinfinitely more appealing than the (unlikely) offer of a
want to get what you've got, you see. You love herholiday in Hawaii would be. Thursday, Friday, Saturday
to bits, and you realise that at her great age, herand Sunday run into each other in a sticky pool of
needs are probably greater than yours. But whatsnot and nausea.
answers can you give her when she's desperately inAPOLIGIES
need of a holiday from your father and his dementia,Then comes today! And another article due. Hey, you
there's no one else to look after him, and guiltthink, I'll just let my readers know that I'm a little off
prevents her from putting him into respite care. Youcolour, and ask them if they'll mind if I keep it short
listen, make what you intend to be soothing noisesand sweet for now - just a sentence or two. So this
but actually sound more like a bull-frog in the matingis it folks. Sorry to let you down. Hope to be back
season, and try to reinforce what your sister's beenwith you properly soon!
telling her.