| When a happy marriage seems to slowly deteriorate | | | | begin a journey through rediscovery and |
| into an unrecognizable mess, there are three main | | | | reestablishing understanding. |
| approaches that couples usually take. The first deals | | | | 3) Be Honest |
| with denial - couples may ignore the problems they | | | | When sharing feelings or asked for your honest |
| face until they become so great that divorce is the | | | | opinion, it is vital to be completely truthful with your |
| only solution. The second involves constant bickering | | | | spouse. In the end, both partners will be satisfied and |
| and fighting, physical abuse, and mental anguish that | | | | happy when they finally reach the same plane. When |
| leads straight to divorce court. The third centers on | | | | not telling the truth or holding back feelings, the |
| the couple that knows they are having problems, but | | | | relationship will suffer further because one person will |
| wishes to resolve their differences and make the | | | | always carry unresolved baggage. |
| marriage work. Below are a few tips to deal with the | | | | 4) Get Away |
| rocky road you may have ahead of you: | | | | Sometimes the pressures of the household, job, and |
| 1) Identify the Problem(s) | | | | the settled routine that some marriages slip into, gets |
| While infidelity is one of the #1 reasons that | | | | too much to bear. Stepping outside of the normal |
| marriages fall apart, there are plenty of other things | | | | schedule and getting away is a great way to rekindle |
| that can distance two people from one another. | | | | a marriage. Suggestions include staying at a deluxe |
| Married couples often fight over financial strain or | | | | hotel for a weekend, vacationing in Hawaii, driving to |
| disagreements over parenting. Before a marriage can | | | | a couple's retreat, or trying a new adventure, such |
| undergo repair, it is important to identify the | | | | as kayaking, mountain climbing, or hang gliding. |
| problems that are causing the rift in the first place. | | | | 5) Attend Counseling |
| You never know when changing a few bad habits will | | | | When both partners have tried to come to a |
| make the world of a difference in a marriage. | | | | common ground with their problems with no success, |
| 2) Share Feelings | | | | counseling might be the last resort. Some couples will |
| When things are bothering you in regards to the | | | | only respond to the analysis of a professional, who |
| marriage, it is important to express these feelings | | | | offers support and structured sessions geared |
| with your partner. How can things run smoothly in a | | | | towards saving a marriage. The techniques that |
| relationship if one person is harboring unhappiness | | | | counselors use are designed to bring the best out in |
| with their spouse, who is completely unaware? | | | | couples. |
| Sharing feelings opens the lines of communication to | | | | |